Being in denial about a situation makes it hard to take charge of changing it. It's a cliché because it's true: Accepting that you have a problem really is half the battle.
If you are in denial about either the seriousness of your condition or the power of your ability to impact it, you limit your ability to get healthy. Committing to taking care of your health will only help if you are honest with yourself about what actually needs to happen.
The tricky thing about denial is that, by definition, we don't realize we are in it. No matter how self-aware we are, we are almost always in a little bit of denial about any challenge. Not fully seeing how tough things are is a coping mechanism that can serve us well. When it prevents us from seeing reality clearly, however, it becomes a problem.
Martha E. Kilcoyne, author of Defeat Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: You Don't Have to Live With It , describes different types of denial when she identifies the following three responses to having chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS; also known as chronic fatigue immune dysfunction (CFS; CFID) and myalgic encephalomyelitis). Although the issues differ for people with other long-term conditions like diabetes, heart disease, lupus, other autoimmune disorders, and some cancers, most of the same principles apply:
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Technology Deflation - Flourish
The Value Of Vegetables - Flourish
How Business Works - Flourish
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Don�t Get Discouraged by the Little Things - Rough Type
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Do I Need Love? - iCheshire
How to demonstrate the value of money to your children - Saber Light Digital
Pitching your videos to a larger audience - Saber Light Digital
Developing Your Branding - Saber Light Digital
Quilting - Saber Light Digital
How To Play Bridge - Saber Light Digital
Employee Needs Are in Flow - Saber Light Digital
Eating & Drinking - Saber Light Digital
What I Needed to Change First - Saber Light Digital
Profound Transformation - Saber Light Digital
Your Best Partner Is You - Oui Madame!
Worthy Of Being Loved - Oui Madame!
Children Who Come from Hard Places - Oui Madame!
The Hill of Influence - Oui Madame!
The Rich and the Poor - Oui Madame!
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How To Fix A Bad Meeting - Micro Stat
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Dependence To Independence --c / f / d / r
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Our Partner Hears Everything --Tummy Fluff
Social Platform --Tummy Fluff
Helping Each Child Feel Safe --Tummy Fluff
Surviving Management - Tummy Fluff
Persuasion Is It An Act - Tummy Fluff?
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Believe In Yourself --App Host
Mao, In A Post-Imperial Light --App Host
Data Display Matters --App Host
Pictures On Your Website --App Host
Bitcoin Circulation --App Host
It's All About Compromise --Boston Prime
Humans Are Social Creatures --Boston Prime
Celebrating Communism.s Centenary On The Moon --Boston Prime
Consistent Meeting Rhythm --Boston Prime
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Can You Go Back? --BANP
If you are having a hard time stepping out of some of your denial into acceptance, one reason may be because you are looking at acceptance as giving up—as passively submitting to an awful reality. That kind of acceptance might sound like “Wow. I am really sick and may never feel good again. ”No wonder you don't want to accept that. Who would?
That is not the acceptance that I'm talking about. That's resignation. I'm talking about an acceptance that is not giving up at all. It is about diving in. It's about loving and learning from all parts of ourselves. It is about becoming a badass. Like the seeds in the previous Mexican proverb, we human beings often grow the most and become the most powerful when we are buried in manure and have to stretch to get out.
Embracing your experience as an integral part of who you are right now, and learning and growing as much as possible along the way is a fast track to badass-ness. This doesn't mean you have to be thankful for your experience or that you Look for the light in this should feel so accepting of it that you don't want to change it. It just means that you accept that this is part of your reality for right now and that all things come with both dark and light elements. one.
You can use any religious, philosophical, emotional, or spiritual tools available to learn lessons and grow from your experience. In my mind, suffering through a major health challenge without milking it for all the personal growth it is worth is like paying college tuition and then skipping all the classes. You are suffering anyway, right? You might as well get as much as you can out of it.
In 2006, when I was at my sickest, I saw an acupuncturist for treatment twice per week. One day when I was particularly despairing of ever getting healthy, she said to me, “You will get healthy again and when you do, after all you've been through, you will be 10 feet tall and nobody will be able to mess with you. ”
I didn't believe her at the time. But I have come to see that the people whom I admire most and who move through the world with the most confidence and grace are often those who have come through some incredible trials, learned and grown from They, and come out 10 feet tall on the other side. In other words: real badasses. If you want to tap into your inner badass—if you want to be able to look any challenge in the eye in the future and know that you can take it on—do whatever you can to fully accept and learn from the experience you are going through right now.
Your Not Alone --BANP
India s Post-Imperial Ascent As A Global Power --BANP
Management Is Always Resource Constrained --BANP
Thinking Like An Investor --BANP
African Mango X
Did I Marry The Right Person? - African Mango X
Heartbreak Told You Who He Was - African Mango X
Orphaned Lands And Post-Imperial Instabilities - African Mango X
You Can Be Wrong In Management - African Mango X
Defining Empathy - African Mango X
Eye Contact - nocoo
Smart Goals - nocoo
Feeling Indulgent - nocoo
Dreaming of Knights in Shining Armour - Newbury Tech
The Grief Process - Newbury Tech
Respect�Step-by-Step - Newbury Tech
Disorganised Meetings - Newbury Tech
How To Say No - Newbury Tech
The Narrative Of Today - Dahlia Designs
The History of Magic - Dahlia Designs
Your Obligations to the Publisher - Dahlia Designs
You Are Important - Dahlia Designs
Clearing Your Space And Relax - The Solent Deal
America�s Imperial Experience - The Solent Deal
What�s Video Good For? - The Solent Deal
Marketing and Media - The Solent Deal
Empathy Can Be Persuasive - The Solent Deal
The Quality Of Been Morally Right - VPT Online
Freedom Is Not Free - VPT Online
Games and Chance - VPT Online
Hiring A Website Designer - VPT Online
Conflicts With Colleagues - VPT Online
Accepting the Unacceptable - Stutter Free
America Relearns To Share The World Stage - Stutter Free
What to Make a Game About? - Stutter Free
Vocabularies We Adopt To Explain The World Around Us --Stutter Free
--Stutter Free New Way of Being --FutureComms
War, Terrorism And Imperial Legacy --FutureComms
Growing Up --FutureComms
What To Do With Your Money --FutureComms
Address The Issue --FutureComms
Respecting the Time and Space of Others --Rays Web Studio
Body Language --Olive and Black
Stop Being Independent --2.4 Children
Rituals Do They Help? --2.4 Children
Learning in Stages --2.4 Children
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Should We Separate? --Ejector Seat
Setting Your Intention --Ejector Seat
Early Development and Attachment --Ejector Seat
The next step in taking charge of your health is making a fierce commitment to your healing work. That means prioritizing it, taking risks, and getting support to succeed.
For many people, making a commitment can sound scary or off-putting. I don't want to commit. That's too big of a commitment for me. He's not ready for a commitment . These are all common phrases that reinforce this sense of commitment. as a frightening, weighty thing.
It's true that making a big commitment is difficult. It can require giving up things. It can cause conflict, shake your sense of self, and bring up tough emotions. But it's worth it because commitment is the secret sauce that makes everything better.
The more you commit, the greater the reward in any endeavor. Whether it's a relationship, a job, a spiritual path, or an athletic feat, committing deeply and giving it the attention it requires will make it go better and potentially bring you many levels of joy.
So, what does making a commitment look like? Like all growth, it happens in stages and it's different for everybody.
I knew that I had made a big step in accepting the seriousness of my illness and committing to getting well when I prioritized rest and self-care by quitting in the middle of a project and disappointing a lot of people. In the spring of 2006, I was leading my sons' preschool in a major fund-raising effort as a paid consultant, even though I was weak and achy all the time. Two months into the nine-month project, I developed a low fever and body-wracking coughs that lasted for months. So I did something I had never done before: I quit. I could have kept leading the project. But I couldn't keep doing it, parent my children, and take care of my health at the same time. I cried buckets, apologized profusely, gave them all my notes, and left.
It was incredibly difficult to admit how sick I was and how much attention my healing required. But it was the beginning of acknowledging the seriousness of my situation and what it would take to get out of it.
Don't just take it from me. The medical community has also identified commitment as one of the keys to health.